The Pizzazzy

Some things interestingly change over a period of time. In the earlier days of our marriage I used to be so disturbed by Anand’s constant snoring. Lots of waking hours were spent getting amazed at the various noises he could make from his nose. There intensity would vary depending on how deep in sleep he was. As suggested by him I even tried to turn his head a little when his snores got too unbearable. But nothing helped except for nudging him slightly so he would reposition himself and for a few minutes I would have quite a peaceful sleep before it started again in the background.

Now, it’s a different scene, without realizing how, this sound has crept into the normalcy of life around me. I am so used to his snores that I even miss them when he is not around. In fact it feels as if there’s something quite out of place without it. My mind is so tuned to his snores that now the snores induce sleep in me and it is quite peaceful also. Although I still take refuge in the pages of my favorite novels I also need the constant snores in the background.

Apart from inducing sleep they also provide me with a sense of security. My brain has registered this sound and sends out signal of safety automatically as I know just by the snores that he is besides me. I think the sense of sound beats the sense of touch. Amazing isn’t it. Such is the life after marriage, some things are really shocking at the beginning and soon without realizing they become part of your life. Anyways how many times would a girl look at her boyfriend and wonder “does he snore in bed?” How unromantic would that be?

By the way the romance flies right out of the window as soon as you start settling down into your so called married bliss with the snores and everything else unless you start finding your husband’s snores very romantic. Seriously!! You have to keep the romance alive or look for it somewhere else.. Okay this was a joke. I mean try to find it in small things and not lose yourselves in all the chores that your routine entails.

Sometimes when I sleep alone and I wake up in the night and don’t hear the familiar snores my sleep runs miles away and then it takes some time for me to get back to sleep.

Since I promised to be honest I’ll tell you another irritating habit between us. Somehow in the night I manage to pull the blanket all to myself. God knows how I do that considering that the struggle is between me and the heavyweight. The thing is Anand must have been or rather is equally annoyed with this habit but as I said such is the life after marriage that he denies to use a second blanket. Now that’s romance right! Sharing the same blanket!! See it isn’t all that bad also.

Before I forget let me tell you the point here, marriage is mostly about companionship and accepting each other the way they are, most of the time adapting yourself to the likes, dislikes and good or bad habits of your partner. It solely means doing things together. And somehow I could never understand the need for personal space between couples. I think this happens only if both the partners are not understanding enough. Well I am leaving this post at this point to touch on it again in some future post but if you feel otherwise come enlighten me too.